Matt's description of his time in the home is surprising and I think a reaction since i mentioned to his mother Laurie in a private email that I think Matt may have a drinking problem. much more than a couple of empty bottles of beer were found in his room; wine and hard liquor-and why would someone not take the trash out of his room for 3 months-there was also old food containers. I regret having said anything, but being a parent myself i was concerned. The room has blinds as well as heavy curtains, Matt chose to never close either the entire time he was here. There is no ac in most Northern California homes..but a fan in the living room and opening all windows helps-yet we did have some intense heat wave weather during his stay. But Matt never turned on the fan or opened windows in the living, dining or kitchen. he often left the lights on his room for 3 days at a time. I discovered this twice at the end of a weekend when i put the clothes he left in the dryer in his room since i needed to use the dryer. He did 2 small loads of laundry every 2 days for several weeks until i asked him about it and reminded him we are in a drought and best to do larger loads less often. but he still ran the dryer every morning to get the wrinkles out of the shirt he planned to wear that day. As a green conscious person there is a small compost bucket in the kitchen; the lid is never off so i fail to understand that comment. one lifts the lid to toss in mainly tea leaves, coffee grounds and veggie scrapes and closes it. when its full it is emptied to a large compost bin on a far side of the yard. Matt never used this; he also never remembered to take down the trash or recycle bin to the curb, or ever put his items in the recycle bin. I allowed Matt to keep one very large box in the living room during his stay (though i suggested to put it in the garage). Matt was a nice polite young man who offered a few times to pick things up when he was going to store, which I declined. It was nice of him being a strong young man, to move a container in the yard a couple of feet to level ground. Since the bus stop is 3 minutes from the house by car, i did call Matt thinking the timing may be just when he is driving back from his job in Mill Vally to San Rafael he would be passing by the bus stop next to the freeway, I ask Matt if he would pick me up after coming back from a month long international trip (during which time I allowed Matt to rent the place at the shared rate rather than at the higher rate for whole house). Unfortunately he didnt know where the bus stop was, didnt ask for directions and it took an hour for him to finally find me. yes of course i was tired and frustrated but not angry at him. Matt's age has nothing to do with asking if he minded picking me up. It was a friendly request and if he wasnt able or willing, I would have taken a taxi. Once I saw how disgusting Matt's room and bathroom were, i reminded him that long term people take care of their own spaces and we share any cleaning of the common spaces. Did he want to take care of it himself or the other option is we could share cost of cleaning person. he chose to share cost of cleaning person which was $35 per visit. I had her come twice in the 3 months. He never paid until the last day and he had only $20s-giving $80, so i gave him the only bills I had as change $4. He didnt want to take it but i insisted might as well. After he left i also discovered he accidently took the large laundry basket i had in the room for guests so the extra $6 can go towards replacing that. Yes a carpet stain I tried to get out myself but could not and i asked only for the exact amount I was quoted by the carpet cleaning service. they have a minimum fee just to come out. several glasses were missing, i knew he had kept a pile up in his room, but after he left i didnt see them in the room or in the cupboard. very strange he should put them in the dishwasher since i told him when he arrived that for 1 person it doesnt make sense to run it so its never used (it could take a month to fill it..). these glasses were in his room the entire time and he just didnt want to wash them. i thought in his hectic move-out he had packed them in with his stuff. Last summer I had 2 students stay in that same one room for 3 months attending university nearby and all was fine, no problems. I never once reminded them about anything. They took garbage down without being asked, cleaned the entire house regularly (unexpected but a sweet gesture); cooked nice mid day meals on Sundays and were a pleasure to have around. Matt was also not a problem to have around. He just didnt want to adhere to any house rules which were not many but given on a welcome letter such as not to use one outlet in the bathroom because it was faulty and caused electrical outage which i put tape over-but he pierced thru the tape with his plug i found out after the power went out; so reminded him. but he still kept using it so power went out several times during his stay (there was another outlet); the other request in the letter concerned the water shortage. My home is a quiet space and guests are welcome to use the entire house and comfy patio. I am baffled by comments about loud phone conversations or his saying I was angry. Matt and I had many pleasant conversations about his work and life. I wish Matt the best of luck, he is a super smart guy who i have no doubt will do very well as he matures into adulthood.